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And If I wasn't already convinced

Well, to be fair, I told my requestor of egg donation that I'd think about it, look into it and let her know. Well, Dan and I were already thinking "no" but what I found from Standford only FURTHER solidified my thinking... Not to knock donating eggs or anything, but it requires a special person--and I know that's not me!

I would have to go through three phases of HORMONE treatment--one of which would basically induce menopause. Now I don't know about you, but I'm really looking forward to being another 25+ years from experiencing that loveliness. Twenty-three is just toooooooo young to be having "hot flashes, mood swings, and dryness...."

After I go through menopause and it's DAILY injections of hormones (that's right, I get to be stuck with a needle on a daily basis--be sure to move injection sites to decrease bruising!), I go through a phase that would cause me to make mega quantities of eggs---and by the way, your chances of getting pregnant during this time frame are so high, that most places require that you get rid of your husband for like 6 weeks until this is all said and done, or else you're basically guaranteed to have your own little one on the way and you won't be eligible for the surgery to remove your eggs for donation. And when I AM ready to donate, I'll be getting some very unpleasantly located DAILY ultrasounds and blood work--again with the daily needles.

Then, the surgery....I could have structural damage to my own parts and pieces, not to mention potentially skewering my bladder or intestines or something. And I could get an infected ovary, and/or cause it to stop working and potentially be infertile.

Then the whole process can cause Ovarian Hyperstimulation Syndrome (OHSS, as I learned). It is "a serious complication marked by chest and abdominal fluid buildup and cystic enlargement of the ovaries that can cause permanent injury and even death." And there's a 1:100 to 1:10 chance that I could get it, depending on what study you look at. And it includes the possibility of dehydration, blood clotting disorders, and kidney damage. Now, I know that that's a wide variation, but still, I don't like 1:100. Also, there's possibly a chance of increasing my risk of ovarian cancer.

So, let's summarize...
1. Definitely MENOPAUSE = No!
2. Daily shots, bloodwork, and ultra sounds for 6-8 weeks = No!
3. Getting rid of Dan for the majority of the 6 weeks = No!
4. Potential damage and infertility = No!
5. Permanent injury/death from OHSS = No!
6. Possible dehydration, clots, and kidney damage = No!
7. Possibly increasing my risk of CANCER = No!

As if I needed more reasons to NOT be an egg donor.....


  1. I didn't want to be the intrusive MIL telling you what to do....


    I'm breathing a deep sigh of relief! :)


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