That was a thread title to a Christian forum site that Dan and I read on occasion. I love these forums because Dan and I get into the threads so much! I love the conversations that are sparked by a few minutes of browsing! For us, it’s just another way that we share our hearts with each other and further get to know each other and our opinions.
Although I love having the conversations that come out of the threads, sometimes I am utterly appalled by the stance the people (assumedly Christian) take on marriage. This particular thread was one of those times for me. I was surprised that for as many people who were opposed to divorce, there were just as many who were saying that “it’s always an option.” Dan and I utterly disagree with that opinion. Barring bodily harm and maybe adultery (though I have seen that pain healed, through God), we both feel that divorce is something that should never cross your mind. In the months leading up to our wedding, someone told me, “be sure not to let the ‘D-word’ come into your home.”
Dan and I both feel strongly that if you live your marriage as it was meant to be lived (for live, for richer and poorer, in good times and bad…you remember the vows you took), divorce isn’t something that should even enter your mind or pop up on your radar screen. Plainly put, it just isn’t and never will be an option for us. Holding on to the idea that you can “get out” and just divorce your spouse if things don’t go the way you plan only undermines one of the greatest assets and foundational pillars of marriage—commitment.
...To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health, to love and to cherish 'till death do us part...